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Be Honest 6/27/2005
If you are not for real and not ready, please say no. Do not
make plans and then stand people up. It's very rude
and you're not going to make many friends that way.
0 Comments, 53 Views,
3 Votes
,5.39 Score
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Be Honest 6/26/2005
We have found that we have had the opportunity to say both
yes & no to people. We always make sure we talk about
how we feel about the other people.
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We have met some who have been quite rude and just nose up
and left our meeting or simply peeked in the door and left.
We think it is only fair to say HI and either yes or no with
a bit of explaination.
0 Comments, 56 Views,
4 Votes
,2.86 Score
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Common Repect 6/25/2005
I seems to be a common trebd that people on here like to waste
others time.If you know right off the bat that you may not
be interested-let them know.They should get over it.It
lets poeple hanging and it's just not a good thing-shoug
of put this under rant and raves!
0 Comments, 38 Views,
4 Votes
,2.47 Score
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Its ok to Say No 6/24/2005
for all u ppl out there who just find it hard to say no, here
is a bit of advice, too many ppl out there mistake common
kindness as weakness, And with the corruption taht we are
facing today, saying no to something u are iffy about may
be a life saver for U in the future........ So ppl ( especially
ladies) if ur intuition shows any sign of doubt
<br>
Then follow the lesson that u ...
0 Comments, 36 Views,
0 Votes
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Be truthfull 6/23/2005
I found out the hard way that it is really important to be
truthful when swinging. My wife and I experienced our first
swinging experience recently. She was uncomfortable
with what she saw me doing with the other woman, but she never
said anything until we got home. I proceeded to argues with
her that she should have said something while we were doing
it, but because she didn't I continued ...
3 Comments, 306 Views,
8 Votes
,1.86 Score
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Saying no can be so hard 6/23/2005
We once met a woman that we had been talking to for 4 or 5 months.
She showed up at the bar with a dozen yellow roses for me which
blew my mind because discreetness was something we had
discussed and I had never been with a woman before. It turned
out she was not the right one, and I know her feelings were
hurt and she did not want to take no for an answer. For months
she would change her ...
0 Comments, 210 Views,
7 Votes
,2.53 Score
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Saying no nicely 6/22/2005
We are very picky in who we even consider meeting, much less
playing with. Does anyone else have a hard time making someone
understand that you're not interested in meeting,
no means no????????
3 Comments, 159 Views,
5 Votes
,0.86 Score
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What do people want really? 6/22/2005
After talking to this couple for a bit they finally sent
pics, and unfortunately the wife was hot and the husband
not so much...I don't know about anyone else but I have
to say that if there isn't any physical attraction
then it isn't gonna work...we believe in friendship
first but there still has to be some attraction for things
to progress further. Anyways, we tried letting the couple ...
1 Comments, 272 Views,
10 Votes
,4.18 Score
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no thanks? 6/21/2005
when your not interested just say no thanks or not interested.
why irgnore people? thats not really an asnwer, just a cowards
way out.
just say no, i dont know why its so difficult.
1 Comments, 59 Views,
3 Votes
,3.43 Score
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Correctness and Cooth 6/16/2005
Come on folks, lets get real bout this -- if you dont get a
reply then end it -- if she/he says aaaaa no dont think it
will happen, then move on -- gesh this is a no brainer here
!!! -- i can take a hint at lest and i agree -- no means no period
!!! drop it and move on --- oooo and my profile is very real
here !!
1 Comments, 127 Views,
9 Votes
,2.57 Score
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breaking it gently 6/15/2005
So you meet someone on this site, hit it off in e-mails, their
picture looks good, but when you meet there is just no attraction
at all. If you really don't want to go through with it,
how do you say you changed your mind with the least amount
of hurt feelings of rejection?
5 Comments, 262 Views,
13 Votes
,2.81 Score
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How to say no thanks to a sexy lady 6/10/2005
I met a really nice lady on here a couple weeks ago, and she
is very attractive, but I'm not ready to just jump into
sex. How do ya say...no thanks, or better...how bout not
yet?
<br>
Thanks
2 Comments, 242 Views,
6 Votes
,3.08 Score
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What are you thinking? 6/8/2005
When a person has plainly stated in her profile that they
are not here to meet someone.. Not here to phone someone
.. Yet they get email after email from men claiming to love
what was said in the profile. Wanna meet? Here is my number,
call me.
So, do I have to say No Thank You. Or just click delete?
22 Comments, 546 Views,
37 Votes
,6.03 Score
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for the ladies 6/7/2005
if you get a lot of mil you should have an auto reply turned
on!!!!!
1 Comments, 71 Views,
4 Votes
,2.47 Score
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Keep It Simple 6/5/2005
My rule is simple. Never have a first meeting with the intention
or promise of having sex. I like to meet for coffee, a drink,
walk in the park, or whatever. Even though I am looking for
casual sex with no committment, I still like that first
"date" to decide if this feels right. Some people
may sound perfect for you but when you meet - there is no attraction.
And before that first ...
1 Comments, 84 Views,
9 Votes
,3.64 Score
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As Tough As It Is 6/5/2005
Hey there everyone.. just giving my thoughts on having
to say No Thanks to couples, men or women who are interested
in you, but are not exactly what you're looking for.
I find it very hard myself, no pun intended, to say no to people
and still try to get to know them and see if any type of chemistry
could be started. Through all my effort though, I have found
out that once you get that ...
0 Comments, 42 Views,
4 Votes
,2.86 Score
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When no means no 6/1/2005
How polite can someone be when you keep gettind e-mails
from someone that you replied back "no thank you"
I tried using the block e-mail but sometimes that does not
always work. What I am looking for if there is anybody else
having same issues and how have you handled them. Thank
you
2 Comments, 76 Views,
5 Votes
,2.49 Score
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Women, ever been told 5/30/2005
I would never refuse a blowjob, but any of you women ever
offered one and been refused?
2 Comments, 234 Views,
11 Votes
,0.92 Score
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No Power at Power Exchange SF 5/30/2005
OKay sexual world, sexplorers, Play-coniseures... I
am just arriving from Rhe Power Exchange, yes! the little
dungeon on Otis in San Fran.
Well, tonight I just experienced the very real DISCRIMINATION.
<br>
As an openly sexual person, I and some of my friends, both
male and female have visited the uniquely weird and exciting
place of the power exchange. I actually like to ...
1 Comments, 144 Views,
10 Votes
,0.20 Score
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Liars 5/27/2005
I came across many people in Fuck Mates that have
pics of fine lookin' woman in their profiles, and end
up to be man... what is up with that... I believe that if you're
trying to be honest... be honest to yourself first and see
who wants to meet you for who you are not for who you pretend
to be.
1 Comments, 112 Views,
9 Votes
,3.64 Score
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How do it nicely 5/26/2005
I was just wondering, how do you say no thankyou nicely.
<br>
Well i have come to the conclusion you cannot say no to anyone
on this site.
So there has to be a way for someone to help me figure it out.
If you would be so willing to help me please let me know.
1 Comments, 130 Views,
7 Votes
,2.28 Score
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Is there a proper way to respond? 5/21/2005
We wanted to get other opinions on the proper etiquette
for responding to unsolicited emails. In our profile we
state we are looking for a woman, or couple. However, we
receive many
emails from single men. Therefore, we consider those emails,
voluntary, and we delete them. We believe that no reply
is necessary because the email came from someone not fitting
our search criteria. ...
1 Comments, 132 Views,
9 Votes
,4.28 Score
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Taking ownership.....when NO is clearly stated. 5/21/2005
One could speculate that a social dullard or a person with
a super-inflated ego may quickly suppress the pain or frustration
of a perceived rejection and either go into denial and keep
trying to make contact or lash out in various ways.
Let's acknowledge that rejection on any level never
feels good. Unfortunately, not every person is emotionally
mature enough to take ownership of their ...
0 Comments, 93 Views,
6 Votes
,2.80 Score
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Clubs? 5/20/2005
How do you let a couple at a club know that you like them and
are cool being friends, but you are not gonna hook up with
them sexually?
0 Comments, 156 Views,
10 Votes
,2.59 Score
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how? 5/20/2005
my first time i met someone online in real life i cant say
i was as attracted to her. her photos were kind of....deceiving.
but she had traveled a long way, and we had already committed
to it, so of course we had sex. damn good sex, i might add.
i guess my question is how would one not be put in that situation
a second time? short of abstaining from online contacts?
3 Comments, 320 Views,
7 Votes
,2.28 Score
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The silent treatment 5/20/2005
This site must have been invented by a woman. Containing,
as it does, members in a ratio of approximately ten men to
every woman, it seems to have been specifically designed
to give women an inflated sense of their own self-worth.
One might even think of prescribing it for depressives
with image problems, so abundant would the attention and
compliments be for anyone vaguely feminine with a ...
1 Comments, 210 Views,
18 Votes
,3.40 Score
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Sorry but not interested! 5/20/2005
When I meet someone whether online or in person I never hesitate
to be honest and tell the person upfront if I'm not interested.
For me, first impressions are everything. Honesty is by
mantra and telling someone I am not attracted is ok because
I let them know it has nothing to do with them other than what
turns me on.
0 Comments, 75 Views,
11 Votes
,5.04 Score
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Difficult situations 5/16/2005
Does anyone have any advise or stoies around meeting and
beng dissapointed with thier meet, what did you do to get
out of this or was it uncomfortable so you went along with
the ride anyway.
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On a serious note is it more uncomfortable saying NO thanks
once youve met or worse once youve stripped off? Good to
hear anyones advise to this: Is it better to arrange coffee
and set no ...
1 Comments, 103 Views,
5 Votes
,3.14 Score
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Reply 5/15/2005
It would be nice if the advertisers you wrote to would at
least send you a reply of no thanks or something similar.In
my experience you don't even get that, its only polite.
0 Comments, 85 Views,
2 Votes
,3.12 Score
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How can I make my profile more appealing and still keep dignity? 5/13/2005
I am a small buisness owner located in OK. Descretion is
a must for me. The wife and I would like to meet a man, woman
or perhaps a couple to share some good times with. We arent
looking for 100 people just 2 for some good times. I dont
post the wife on the profile so that we can be a little descreet
but I barely get any hits at all.
<br>
What can I do to make my profile more ...
1 Comments, 249 Views,
9 Votes
,1.93 Score
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